AmmaBhagavan and the dasas from the Oneness University are always stressing how important is it to
your personal spiritual growth that you "set right your relationships." The following video reveals how
you can have a perfect relationship--with anyone.
Below that is a transcript of Bhagwan's answer to Sri Anandagiriji's question as to why we feel so
disconnected even in our most intimate relationships.
Sri Bhagavan tells how to have a perfect relationship
Sri Bhagavan Reveals
How to Have Perfect Relationships
You suffer because you try to understand. Trying to understand and finding fault will never help. It
is like peeling an onion. You could go on peeling and you'd arrive nowhere.
If you were to read psychology or philosophy, and try to explain or understand the other, there is no hope for
you. You judge because you do not feel connected to the other. If only you would have learned the art
of experiencing the other, whether it is your spouse, your parent, or your child, you'd be in
I often give an example of a strange couple that I met...
He was the dean of a medical college who married a vegetable vendor. It was the most ill-fitting marriage
anyone ever saw. He was handsome, well-read, cultured and prosperous--and she was the opposite.
Their marriage was strange because they got into an agreement before marrying that neither would ask the other
to change. He experiences her wild and rustic ways, while she experiences his dignity and calmness.
Neither try to change the other.
It is one of the most successful marriages that I have ever seen. Twenty-five years of marriage, they
still have life in their relationship.
If you could experience your wife as she nags, screams or yells at you, that would be most beautiful.
Similarly when your husband bothers, troubles, or is indifferent to you, if you could experience him without trying
to change him, there would be joy.
This is the only way you could set right your relationships, because relationships then become a source of
If you know this art of experiencing your spouse, you are then not only happy with your spouse, you are
happy with everything in life. You would then experience a cup of coffee, the banana you eat, and
your everyday morning walk. You would know you are walking in heaven.